What We Learned From The Social Media Dragging Of Ayesha Curry

For as great as Black Twitter can be, this wasn’t one of its finest moments.

Steph Curry’s better half has once again set the internet on fire.

A few years after sparking a huge debate about how women should dress and carry themselves, Ayesha Curry is back in the spotlight for some of her recent comments from her appearance on Jada Pinkett Smith’s “Red Table Talk” on Facebook.

“Something that really bothers me, and honestly has given me a sense of a little bit of an insecurity, is the fact that yeah, there are all these women, like, throwing themselves (at Steph), but me, like the past 10 years, I don’t have any of that,” she explained about the lack of male attention she receives compared to the enormous amount of female attention that her husband gets on a regular basis.

“I have zero – this sounds weird – but, like, male attention, and so then I begin to internalize it, and I’m like, ‘Is something wrong with me?’

“I don’t want it,” she added, “but it’d be nice to know that, like, someone’s lookin’.”

As you can guess, Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram had a field day with Curry’s comments. Curry is an easy target on social media as some have anointed her as the face of “pick me” culture.

But like most conversations on social media, there was one huge component that was missing, context. Lost in the discussion concerning Curry was the part of the conversation where she talked about how she handles groupies and the dynamics of her marriage.

I say her marriage, because it isn’t ours.

“Stephen is very nice by nature, and he’s very talkative. Everything is always very friendly, sometimes to the point that I insert myself, like, ‘Hello, how are you doing?’ The ladies will always be lurking, hoping for their moment. You need to be aware of that,” she explained.

Curry also added that Steph seems to be naïve to women’s advances. “There have been a couple of times where I’ve wanted to punch somebody in the face. It’s never him. He can’t see it coming. I see it from a mile away.”

I understand how a 31-year-old man who is one of the faces of the NBA with three championship rings and two MVP trophies to his name being ignorant to women trying to holla at him might not come off as believable. And I’ll never make excuses for her words from 2015 when she gave a “holier than though” take on how women should, or shouldn’t, dress.

“Everyone’s into barely wearing clothes these days huh? Not my style. I like to keep the good stuff covered up for the one who matters. Just looking at the latest fashion trends. I’ll take classy over trendy any day of the week. #saturdaynightinsight ? and all I’m doing is sitting here reading a style weekly ???. You guys definitely entertain me that’s for sure. Regardless of if you like my “style of clothes” or not (which I don’t care) please do not tear women down and degrade them… Not cool peeps,” she wrote.

But, everybody wants to be desirable, and that’s a feeling that doesn’t have a gender, orientation, or a relationship status attached to it.

In a day and age in which everyone has a voice via social media, weighing in with opinion is par for the course. But, we know what they say about opinions.

For as great as Black Twitter can be, this wasn’t one of its finest moments. Because ganging up on Curry for opening up her marriage isn’t cool. And that mentality is a part of society that speaks to our own insecurities while trying to bash people for being honest about theirs.

One of the beauties of being an adult is that you get to choose who you want to be. And the last time I checked, Ayesha Curry was a grown ass married woman that’s a mother of three that hasn’t hurt anybody, except for making some cringe-worthy comments on Twitter in the past, which we’ve all probably done.

So, I said all that to say.

Get some business of your own and let that woman be.

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